If HE makes a stupid comment after some hot action, a sensual tryst can quickly turn into a full-blown crisis. If his mouth is quicker than his brain, then SHE will have no doubt as to his thoughts (or his feelings).
Here, we have brought together the phrases that ruin the mood after the high and which thoughts people (men) should best keep to themselves:
For women, this phrase is the ultimate no-go after sex for women. You would think by now that it would have got about that a self-confident “Well, how was I?” after sex was a big no-no. Unfortunately, some masters of creation have still not got the message and attempt to render homage to themselves with this sentence, often said with a pumped-out chest and a wide grin on their face.
What is clear is that no matter how good he was, for this woman, the first time is definitely the last.
If SHE doesn’t know that her latest conquest is called Jeff, it might sound funny. However, if HE has forgotten what HER name is after a night together (or maybe he never knew) and asks what her name is, it is not as funny.
At least for HER, and then very quickly for HIM. Because the ensuing argument or throwing-out could be so fierce that he will never forget her name again. But by then, unfortunately, it is usually too late.
Never, ever, without exception!!, should men mention their ex after sex; regardless of the context. There is no worse time to say this.
He risks causing an absolute worst case scenario, however, if he compares his current flame with his ex sexually, or says his ex was better. This passion killer can quickly turn into a relationship killer, therefore, men, exercise some discipline and let bygones be bygones and enjoy the here and now.
If you go at it flat out, sex makes you hungry, no question. But this no longer means that SHE has to do the cooking after sex, on the contrary.
Women enjoy togetherness and want to lie in a man's strong arms and cuddle after sex. Being in front of an oven making egg and bacon for a man is not any woman's fantasy at all (as far as we know).
Better alternatives: Get a takeaway delivered or cook a post-sex meal with lots of protein. This will fuel the energy tanks for the second round.
Men love sport and, for many, the weekly Premier League games, Formula 1 races and big boxing bouts are things that they only miss very reluctantly.
Maybe, but if someone has the fortune to instead spend this in sensuous companionship and passionate ecstasy, it is certainly not appropriate to complain that they have missed a game or a race.
Whoever cannot do without football should meet with his friends for the football first and then be all hers afterwards. Why not, perhaps he can get maximum points in bed after his team have won?
The flood of hormones which reaches every part of the body shortly after orgasm makes men, who are otherwise reserved, talkative.
Some use this deep relaxation to bring up relationship problems or even confess to a lapse with a female work colleague at the last Christmas party. Men: Believe us, there is no worse moment for bringing up this type of problem than after sex. Going by the principle: "I will go along with sex, because it may be the last time", will make her feel, quite rightly, that she is being messed around.
This is not okay if it is not an important (professional) appointment, but just an average night out on the town with your mates who are waiting in the pub.
Those who prefer to go out with colleagues after sex rather than spend time with their new conquest must not be surprised if they soon find lots of time for their colleagues.
That means: It’s better to drop a night out with the lads and instead fumble around between the bedsheets.
If somebody thanks you, it is usually a positive character trait. Everyone likes to receive a ‘thank you’ for a gift, holding a door open, a compliment or praise. But thanking someone for sex? Women don’t like this at all!
However, if HE whispers thank you to her face after a blowjob then SHE soon feels like a service provider. This is not a problem in some roleplays.
Usually, however: Better to let out a loud "wow" to let her know how the experience was fantastic.
Often, it is not a matter of whether you say something, but more of when you say it. After some morning sex, that is totally natural and she will understand. However, mentioning work 30 seconds after orgasm can irritate her. Saying “I have a lot to do today” sounds to her like “Oh my God, I have got to get out of here”.
The (advance?) time pressure makes the sex unpersonal. Therefore: After sex, save half an hour for kissing and cuddling. A reference to a full appointment calendar is okay afterwards.
As bad as some of the mentioned phrases are, an embarrassed silence, from which both want to get away from as soon as possible, is not a lot better.
On the contrary, whoever has nothing to say after sex will probably have to ask themselves whether getting into bed together was worth it at all. This goes for both men and women. In some cases, the sex may be enough for both partners.
A relationship is probably not going to blossom out of this silence.