Bondage is one of the most elegant of kinks in the BDSM lifestyle – an intricate and complex art. It's all about the willing and consensual exchange of power and the ties that bind like an unrelenting lover. Bondage lets you fully explore who you really are inside in the erotic arena; you can shed your everyday identity and be who your true self.
If you are the top, the one tying the ties, it is an act of both passion and domination, putting you in control over your partner's experience. You are the active player and the one in charge. For the bottom, the one being bound, it is an act of submission that opens up a door to intense sensual experiences unlike anything you can experience having plain old vanilla sex. Bondage heightens your senses as a passive vessel of your partner's devious plans, mixing pleasure and pain in a cocktail of ecstasy.
What makes bondage so appealing, though, is also why it's hard to find fulfilling experiences in the real world. It is complex and both partners need to know what the are doing along with their limits. Bondage isn't something that you can put together safely off the cuff – it takes some knowledge. That's what makes satisfying partners hard to find. When it comes to BDSM or most fetishes in general, it's not something you can usually bring up in light conversation, even in today's liberal society. It's hard to go into a bar and make a hook up and casually ask, “Oh and by the way, I'd like to tie you up until you're immobile and then have my way with you – is that alright luv?” At best they may run away – at worst it's a visit from the police. Bondage is not well understood in our world and many people have no idea what it truly involves. In fact, bondage is such a secretive kink in our society that you probably came to recognize your own interest in it through someone else who already knew about it – or even by accident! It's certainly not something you ever learned about in your sexual health classes at school.
However it happened, whether you were a teenager or a mature adult, once you discovered your love of the rope or the ties that bind, bondage became something you fantasized about often. The only problem becomes finding bondage partners who match your own preferences. Maybe it happened once or twice just by happenstance. You found a kink friendly girlfriend or boyfriend who indulged your desire to tie or be tied up. Or maybe just someone who was open minded and willing to let you “do what you want”. But how satisfying was that? And then eventually you broke up and you went back masturbating to bondage videos and websites instead... If your preference is for casual relationships and hook ups then it becomes even more difficult to satisfy your urge to use ropes, chains, ties or whatever your preference. That's a shame when Badults has the solution to your bondage dilemma online.
Badults makes it easy to find bondage and other fetish partners online in from a large community of sexy people looking for adult fun. You may be able to find an underground club where you live, or visit a fetish night at a night club. But, there are many different types of bondage and it can serve many different purposes. Online, you can be honest about your bondage desires and look for exactly what you want. Do you want to tie up your partner to spank them or submit to some other act? Do you want to tie them up for photographs? Do you like to punish your bound partners with other forms of erotic torture? Or perhaps you're into Shibari - Japanese rope bondage? No matter what your preference is, you can be honest and specify exactly what you want, knowing there are partners out there waiting for exactly what you're asking for.
No matter where your bondage preference lies, you want a safe, satisfying encounter for you and your partner. That's why it's essential to have a safe word that you decide on ahead of time. When you find your bondage partner online, you can chat first to find out if you are compatible and get a feel for your chemistry. You'll be able to find out how much they know and decide whether they'd make the ideal partner for your or not. It's also a good opportunity to get all the details sorted out in advance, before you meet for your bondage encounter. That way, when you meet, all you need to concentrate on is your pleasure – and the knots you'll tie. Bondage gives you a way of reaching past the mundane and leaving your everyday, ordinary life behind for an intense erotic experience. With the right partners, you can experiment, explore your sexuality and take it as far as you choose.
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