Rimming. What do you think of when you hear that word? If your first reaction is to recoil in disgust, think again. Also called analingus, rimjobs are one of the most intimate, and pleasurable, things two lovers can do. However, here's the really important part. If you just dive straight in without knowing the basics, neither partner will enjoy what could be an incredible sexual experience. So don't assume you know what rimming is all about. There's much more to it than meets the eye. Here's what you need to know.
Rimming involves orally stimulating the anus of your partner. There, I've said it. As such, it can be a pretty unsafe practice. But here's the weird thing: rimming is totally safe if you take precautions. Obviously, you and your partner should ensure that you are STD free before you engage in such an intimate practice. When you've been checked out, you can move onto basic hygiene practices. Have your partner clean themselves thoroughly before you rim, and don't start your foreplay by going straight for their anus. It may even be a good idea to shower or share a bath before you begin. And always use a dental dam. It doesn't hurt the experience, and it can prevent any nasty infections. If you move onto her vagina or mouth after rimming, it could be both unsafe and ruin the experience, so make it the culmination of your sexual adventures, not the start.
Rimming is all about accessibility. To really satisfy the person being rimmed, you need to move in quickly, going straight for the interior of their anus. That means having them take the perfect position. Standard doggy style, with the legs placed a little further apart than normal usually works well. You can also ask your partner to stand up, then bend over to grasp their ankles. Or they might lie on their back and raise their ankles in the air until they can grasp them with their hands. Either works beautifully.
If you aren't a hair person, it may also be a good idea to ask them to shave. Not only will it make giving the rimjob more enjoyable, freshly shaven tissue is more sensitive, so your partner will experience a much more intense orgasm. If that doesn't sell the idea of shaving their asshole, nothing will. Failing that, you can learn how to quickly part their anal hair, avoiding awkward moments as you try to penetrate their bush with your tongue. Remember: speed and immediacy are vital, so be as ruthless as possible. Don't delay.
Preparing the location of your rimjob is just as important as technique and safety. Ideally, you'll find a comfortable place where you can rest on your knees at a level just below your partner's anus. Now, let's think about how to make the experience more pleasurable. The right props can make a massive difference. For example, why not use a vibrator on your girlfriend's vagina as you rim? The combination of different sensations is an incredible high. She'll thank you when it comes to your reward, believe me. Another prop that you should always remember is a glass of mouthwash for after the rimjob. There's no need to explain why this is a rimming essential.
Now we come to the crucial section: technique. If you're new to rimming, you'll probably have a few ideas about how it's done, but throw those away. There's a technique that all ace rimmers need to know, and it makes a vast difference to how the rimjob feels. First off, you need to know how to find and stimulate the perineum. This is the folded skin in between the penis or vagina and the anus. Start by kissing this gently. Now, find the rim of their anus (hence the name, rimming). Slowly move your tongue around thee rim. Don't move quickly or thrust it in, just move it around the rim. Don't worry about using your teeth or lips to massage it. How you stimulate the rim is the key to a good rimjob. After a while, you can start to penetrate the outer anus. How much you do so is up to you, but pay close attention to how your partner is behaving. If they are ready for the next stage, you'll sense their mounting pleasure.
When you've mastered the temptation to rush and become familiar with the anus, you can move onto some advanced rimming. One of the most important things to learn is how to shape your tongue. Look in the mirror and try to make your tongue slender by rolling the sides. Then open it out a little - not necessarily all the way. When you do this in the anal opening, you can give your partner an extraordinary burst of pleasure, but it takes real skill to control your tongue muscle effectively. Learning when to blow onto the anus is another crucial skill. A little warm air at just the right time can be the perfect primer for your tongue to weave its magic.
Here's another really vital thing to remember: the best rimjobs aren't just about anal stimulation. They create pleasure all over the body, bringing your partner to an orgasm so intense they can hardly speak. As you rim, use your hands to massage their belly. Gently rake your fingers down their buttocks, and - of course - be sure to stimulate the vagina and penis as you normally would. Rimjobs make your sexual organs even more sensitive and powerful. That's the beautiful thing about them. So think about what you need to be doing other than pure rimming, and you will succeed big time.
So, there's nothing mysterious about rimming. It's something that people are doing in your neighborhood right now, and it's nothing to worry about. If your partner suggests it, now you have the knowledge to rim like a pro - just remember to take precautions and stay safe at all times.