One of the common myths about sex is that to be truly satisfying for both the man and the woman, it has to last for half an hour or more. If that were true, life would be a whole lot more tiring, but it’s really just a misconception. In fact, true sexual experts can bring each other to orgasm within minutes, allowing them to squeeze their passion in between TV shows, during work breaks or even thousands of feet high in the sky. What makes these people special? Nothing – they just happen to have mastered the art of the quickie, and you can do the same. Here’s how.
Quickies don’t have to be spontaneous outbursts of passion, although they sometimes are. They can also be planned meticulously. In fact, one of the keys to enjoying a successful quickie is to choose a location that puts both partners at their ease. There’s no chance of both of you performing at lighting speed if you are tense or nervous. If you are just getting into sprint sex, make a point of choosing an outdoor location that offers seclusion and peace. Somewhere you both know on the outskirts of town should do fine. It just has to be off the beaten track, but still accessible enough to provide a burst of adrenaline.
Speaking of adrenaline, now we come onto the most important part of the quickie experience. The real reason why people seek out quick sex is because of the element of risk involved. They will often end up having sex in closets, parks, toilets – anywhere that can be found on the spur of the moment. Why? Because these places have an element of privacy, but are still public enough to present the risk of discovery. When people know that they can be discovered having public sex, their bodies go wild with a mixture of fear and lust. They become primed to reach climax more quickly, and their sexual hormones work overtime to make the experience as intense as possible. So when you are picking a site for your quickie, bear that in mind. Try to find somewhere that mixes public access and privacy. It’s no fun in your own bedroom.
When you have a quickie, you don’t have time to get undressed, engage in foreplay and gently bring each other to arousal. Instead, you have to work fast, ignoring the usual sexual rules and obeying only your instinctive desire to have sex. When the moment comes, don’t fuss about making each other comfortable. Don’t worry about taking her clothes off or folding your jeans neatly. Only remove as much clothing as you need to achieve penetration, and focus on how your partner is responding. The sense of complicity between two people having public sex is enough to send both of you into another world, where the old rules are suspended.
OK, so there is some technique involved. Being good at quickies isn’t all about abandoning yourself to sexual pleasure. It also entails finding positions that work for both you and your partner. The ideal position isn’t usually going to be the traditional missionary. Few quickie locations afford the chance to lie down, so most of the time you’ll need to use the space efficiently. If you can hold her while she straddles you, that’s ideal, but seating your partner over a bench or wall can also work well. She might even be keen to face the wall as you enter her from behind – it’s just a matter of finding a position you can both enjoy, so experiment.
Along with choosing the right location, you can also prepare each other for a mind-blowing quickie by messaging or calling each other throughout the day. Flirtatious texts, cryptic messages on her Facebook wall and a strategically placed emoticon can pave the way for a quickie when you both get home from work. If both of you have been thinking about it all day, by the time you meet up, it’s only a matter of seconds before your bodies are demanding sexual fulfilment.
Sometimes, it can help to bring in assistance. Even the horniest couples can struggle to climax in a few minutes, and when you’re having a quickie, a couple of minutes is all you’ve got. With that in mind, it might help to carry around a tube of lube. If you feel that your partner will be up for a quickie, the extra lubrication can set things off at a sprinting pace, instead of waiting for the magic to happen. Some girls also adore vibrators or other sex toys, which can arouse them in an instant. If that applies to you, make sure your partner always has the right toys handy. They can make a real difference.
Quickies are all about achieving the most intense possible sensations in the shortest possible time, not about fumbling around before ejaculating. They can be so much more than that. To ratchet up the intensity, engage all of her senses when you come together. Use your hands, rub your legs against hers, feel her breasts, kiss her, lick her, run your fingers through her hair. That way, you will make her understand that it’s not just about you. It isn’t just a case of your overpowering sexual desire requiring release. It’s a mutual act of passion – and one that will drive her just as wild as yourself.
The more quickies you have, the more you will learn to synchronize your passion with your partner. True masters of the quickie can be in and out in a couple of minutes, leaving both partners gasping with pleasure. When you reach that level of sexual control, it’s time to explore other venues for your encounters. Sometimes the need will overtake you unawares. It could be on a flight, in a restaurant or at the park. When it comes, you and your partner will know what to do and, believe me, you’ll do it. So don’t be afraid to expand your sexual horizons. A quickie can be enjoyed almost anywhere, if you have the skills to pull it off.
Sometimes, life is too hectic to find time for conventional sex. At other times, we just crave the excitement of spontaneous sex. Whatever your reasons, there’s nothing like a quickie to set your pulse racing. By following these tips, you can become a quickie master and reach climax in minutes, wherever you happen to be.
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