Picture the scene. You’ve just had a great conversation with a guy online. Your profiles fit perfectly, he’s good-looking, charming and obviously attracted to your pictures. In fact, it went so well that you’ve organized a hook-up in a bar nearby. But now you’re starting to worry. It’s that old first date anxiety again, and it’s completely natural.
Even if we show plenty of photos to guys online, there’s always a nagging feeling in the back of our minds that we won’t be as sexy in the flesh. The way we move, the way we do our hair and the way we dress might not turn him on like our carefully chosen pics, so we start to worry. Try to put all of that out of your mind and concentrate on what counts – making a first impression that will captivate your guy from the very first moment. Here are some pointers about how to reel him in straight away.
This is really important, and it’s easy to forget in the excitement of preparing for a hook-up. When you chat online, you can learn a lot about what guys like, the kind of thing that excites them and what they are looking for when they date. Some guys obviously want company and conversation before they move onto something more physical. In that case, it might be a good idea to dress more conservatively. Those kind of men may well be up for fun later, but they need to be put at their ease before you can make progress. On the other hand, extremely confident, outgoing guys often respond to similar types of girl. They want to see sexy dresses, make-up, jewellery and they aren’t intimidated by confident women either.
When you head out for a hook-up, you’ve almost seduced your date. Your sexy profile pics, flirty chat and list of sexual preferences will have seen to that. So there’s no need to dress in a sexy, seductive way. However, let’s be honest. Both of you will be looking for sex, and your date will be turned off if you arrive looking like a librarian (unless that’s one of his fetishes, and it’s not that uncommon). Don’t be afraid to get your high heeled boots, short tops and leather skirts out – it’s the perfect time to advertise your sexual desire.
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When you’ve decided how provocative you want to be, it’s time to start combining outfits to find a dazzling colour scheme. Why not think about outfits that people have complimented in the past? Maybe you wore a yellow and blue blouse and skirt combo last month that really turned heads. Everyone has their own favourite colours, but remember, you’re heading out for a hook-up. Red signals danger to some guys, but it’s also the colour of passion – and it turns guys on like nothing else. Black is also the colour of domination, so if that’s what he’s into, think about a dark outfit.
Any good hook-up has two parts. First of all, there’s the bar, show or restaurant. This is where the two of you get to know each other, and where the chemistry starts to develop. At this point, you need to feel comfortable in your skin, and wearing the right clothing can really help. It partly depends on the venue and climate, but wearing skimpier outfits often helps to deal with the heat, so if you are worried about perspiration, dressing down is the way to go.
The second part of the date is the main event – when you get physical at his place or yours. Choose an outfit that you can slip out of easily and he can easily remove, and never over elaborate. On a hook-up, simplicity rules.
This is a neat idea that can really send guys crazy with lust – which is the aim of the game, right? If you are trying to seduce a guy, wear outfits that are obviously easy to remove, or tear off in a fit of passion. Dresses or tops with a couple of buttons or a single zip are the kind of items that can be ripped off in seconds, and guys notice this kind of thing. By using subtle cues, you can show them that you are ready for sex, whether that means wearing eyelash extensions to flutter in his direction or removing your foot from a sexy pair of heels. It’s all part of the process.
As we noted at the start, dressing well is vital to make a good first impression. If you can make him aroused from the start, it’s much easier to make progress later on, but there are other ways to give yourself a head start.
For instance, wearing the right combination of bracelets, necklaces, earrings and rings can add a sensual, sexy element to your outfit. Even something as humble as a hair-band can contrast with a sexy dress to create an irresistible cheerleader look.
Seducing a guy on the first date isn’t just about choosing a gorgeous dress, the right jewellery or clothes that accentuate your curves. Footwear should also be at the centre of your attention. For many guys, the feet are a sexual focus. They can’t get enough of stiletto heeled boots, leather heels or platforms – and seeing girls wearing them drives them wild. You can probably tell online whether your guy is into a foot or shoe fetish, and if he is, think about wearing your sexiest heels. The feet is often the first thing guys notice about a woman when they have a first date, so don’t disappoint him.
This is straight out of the Dating ABC, but it’s important to stress for anyone heading out on a first hook-up. We all have different body shapes and sizes, and what looks fabulous on one girl won’t suit another. That’s just the way of the world. So choose clothes that harmonize with your figure.
If you have a straight or rectangular style figure, think about adding a belt to accentuate your waistline. If you have an hourglass figure, choose dresses that show off your beautiful curves. There’s no single recipe for the ideal outfit, so experiment until you find a look that works for you.
Hook-ups are just like any other date, and both parties will probably feel awkward, nervous and uncertain about each other. By dressing strategically, you can make yourself look great, feel comfortable and make an instant impression. It’s the first step towards a successful seduction, so always think hard about your hook-up outfits.