Booty call etiquette and booty call rules are two sides of the same coin. A booty call can be the best and most surefire way to guarantee you have sex tonight. But, as with anything involving the act of intimacy and emotions, it comes with its own set of rules. There’s a fine line between classy and sloppy and that line is blurred when it comes to booty calls.
Here’s one thing you should keep in mind at all times, above our 7 great rules to getting your booty call routine down like a pro: while there’s no need to go above and beyond, like you would in a relationship, “booty call” is not grounds for “total lack of consideration”.
Yes, there’s a good faith agreement that both of you are there for one thing only: a great romp in bed that you can count on time and again. But don’t mistake that as the green light to act like the opposite person is a piece of meat with absolutely no feelings.
Here’s how to keep it classy without getting too personal.
Look, you don’t want to make it too personal. You both can skip the foreplay because each of you know exactly why you’re there. This can be refreshing and quite liberating. While we do seek company and validation from others, with a booty call, it’s all about the act. This means you can skip the dinner and drinks bit.
Far from being “cold”, this is actually part of the etiquette of a successful booty call routine: emotional stickiness is the last thing either of you want. And leading someone on with the “extra stuff” is where it could get dangerous.
So breathe easy: a booty call is never a date and it never has to be.
This goes with our point up top: don’t booty call someone you’ve already been on a date (or a couple!) with. It royally messes with the boundaries and rules for dating and it could really hurt someone’s feelings.
Imagine if they’re into you but you only think they’re worthy of a late night booty call. This is where you avoid the drama altogether.
The only exception to this rule is if you’ve both talked about it and consented. If there seems to be some interest on the other person’s side, they have approached you and you’ve been feeling the same way, go for it!
The saying goes, “Don’t eat where you dump,” and it couldn’t be more fitting than when it comes to booty calls. Look, your routine is something that you want to keep up and continue. Ostensibly, you like to have sex with this person — but that’s it.
So don’t start up a “booty call” situation with someone who’s already within your social circle. Not only does it have the potential to get awkward with your other friends, you may have to sneak around, there’s a chance for either of you to slip up... and a very real danger of it getting complicated real fast.
This doesn’t mean you think they’re the scum of the universe but they’re damn good in bed. Look, hate is the other side of love — they’re both super-charged emotions and if you’re having a booty call with someone you hate, that’s just as bad as someone you’re crushing out on.
The opposite of love is indifference. And this is what you want to be with your booty call candidate: indifferent. There’s no emotions involved and there’s no potential for it to turn into anything more. Once again, there are boundaries firmly in place and this is the cardinal rule for great booty call experiences.
By definition, a booty call is “just sex”, right? So it doesn’t really matter to you where it comes from or whom, as long as you get the chance to blow off some steam, right?
Right. Except that there are some rules to keep in mind.
Don’t blast more than one person at a time with a “booty call request”. And give them a couple of hours of advance notice when you do the “ask”. They can say no and, if they do, within a reasonable amount of time, that’s when you move on.
Here’s the best part. Once you’re done the deed, feel free to dress down. If they’re going to stay over and you’ve previously discussed that that’s okay (feel free to lay down your laws before you actually start having booty calls), you can be as casual as you like.
If you’re going to their place, do be on time: that’s just common courtesy. But you also don’t need to feel pressured into rolling up, dressed to the nines. That’s just not what a booty call is all about.
Booty calls are usually great because they have an expiry date on them. If you know this going in, you can simply remain in the moment.
You don’t have to fret about how it’s going to end or the kind of “impression” you’ll make or if it’ll “last”. A booty call is the exact opposite of this. If it’s not great sex with one person, you’ll definitely be able to mimic your routine with someone new down the line.
Keep an open mind — but don’t skimp on these rules!