You know what they say: nice guys finish last. And shy guys? Well, the jury’s still out on that one. See, shy guys may have the capacity to be bold, confident and scintillating partners. But their shyness is often crippling. On the inside, they know exactly what a woman wants.
But they’re too shy to initiate a conversation and they worry a lot about how they’ll be perceived, whether she’ll like him right away or not. This leads to shy guys taking their own selves out of the race, so to speak. Their biggest detractors are not anybody else but their own selves.
We’ve put together the 7 best animist effective tips for shy guys who want to have NSA sex.
Here’s the number one rule (well, these are all really important points): don’t make the mistake of wearing your heart on your sleeve. There’s a difference between being open and emotionally available to being a man she can wipe the floor with.
If you’re in doubt about where the line is, don’t volunteer any information without her explicitly asking you.
Another thing shy guys who want to have NSA sex are concerned about is that they may be inexperienced. How will their date react to this?
Here’s an easy fix: don’t make it a big deal and, unless she asks you directly, don’t give out your number
The number of women you’ve been intimate with, that is. Women don’t need to know how many women you’ve been with — to be honest, it’s more likely to be a huge turn-off than to be perceived as you being “forthcoming”. This is great news for you because, if that number is low, you don’t need to let it be known.
Every woman is different, just as every man is. Don’t automatically assume anything about her or her sexual proclivities and you’ll be fine!
Don’t second guess why she’s with you and then use your lack of experience to talk yourself out of sleeping together. Most men who talk about how “experienced” they are, are not necessarily the “best” lovers.
Again, because every woman is different, it depends more on what she is specifically looking for. If she’s with you, it’s because she wants to be. So hold that — and only that! — as what matters and go forth, young Padawan!
Shy guys are usually uncomfortable with new and unfamiliar faces. Once they’ve warmed up, they’re usually incredibly friendly and can even appear confident. Because one of the roadblocks for shy guys who wants to have NSA sex is their own comfort levels, it can be tempting to try and hook up with your female friends.
What could be the harm? you think.
But the last thing you want to do is hook up with your friends.This is exactly what will kill the comfortable vibe and relationship you have with them. And it could turn into a FWB and then morph into something messy — this is the exact opposite of “NSA” sex.
If you’re looking for NSA sex, act like someone who is looking to hook up, not build a relationship. There’s no reason to go beyond being casual acquaintances.
Shy guys are also sometimes really nice guys who will think showing care and concern for their otherwise “fuck buddy” means you care for them as a human being. But, as a fuck buddy in an NSA sex arrangement, you don’t have to play the boyfriend card. Be kind, courteous, even cuddle!
Just don’t be bringing her chicken soup when she’s sick or asking to meet her friends after 2 weeks.
If you’re looking for NSA sex buddies online, the best way to find them is not put out some kind of Craiglist or personals ad. Those tend to only bring out the women who will flake on you after a couple of emails. Use an online service that includes private messaging and you can do a search based on other people in your area who are looking only for casual sex.
That way, there are no misunderstandings about what you’re each there for. You don’t have to feel anxious that she’ll have expectations.
Shy guys, no matter how much you want to spill your guts about your day, desist! You’re not allowed to give her any information that she hasn’t explicitly asked for. Casual relationships and NSA sex are great because you can both cut the nonsense and get right to the heart of why you’re looking to be together. You can explore your desires and do with you NSA sex partner what you may not yet feel comfortable exploring in a relationship.
That’s a win-win, right?
So, as a rule of thumb, don’t ruin it by giving her the details. Just like you might not like drama, she doesn’t need to hear about your worries.
Shy guys, there’s hope. NSA sex is actually the best kind of sexual encounter for you right now. It’s a great way for you to become more experienced in the art of being with women, without being worried about how to “approach” or “chat up” women.
With NSA sex, you both know where it’s going and what you’re each looking for. Take this as an opportunity to get comfortable with yourself and explore your desires. You may not yet be able to let loose but NSA sex gives you anonymity while still being comfortable.
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